“Set boundaries” is common relationship advice, and yes, healthy boundaries matter. But when they become too rigid, they can create distance, leaving partners feeling like they’re living on separate islands. John & Julie Gottman suggest that while boundaries have their place, the real key is learning how to stay connected even through the hard moments. Maybe it’s not about choosing boundaries or connection, but knowing when one is helping and when it’s hurting. What do you think… can boundaries

10K views · 399 reactions | After 50+ years studying relationships, John Gottman says that the "secret to loyalty in a relationship" includes considering yourself lucky to be with your partner. He shares more about the habit he's developed to counteract the stresses of a busy life together in this clip. | The Gottman Institute | Facebook